How your personal evolution could save the planet.

September 11, 2008

According to the Clare Graves (who is a man) individuals and groups evolve through certain levels according to their values.  According to the work of Clare Graves, communities, populations and cultures evolve through what he calls “values” levels. Please note this is just a model which is useful to help us understand evolution of communities. It should not be used to judge people as being better or worse.

Evolution of values systems takes place within populations and cultures. Cultures evolve through these levels. In addition, people experience evolving through these levels in their lifetime. Organisations / groups of people also evolve through these levels.

1. Survival Oriented:
This person is totally alone. They have no associations with anyone else. No-one is currently living at this level except in very unusual situations where someone has been stranded somewhere – e.g. soldiers stranded after 2nd world war. Some people in abusive families exist at survival level.

2. Tribal Oriented This level occurs where there is a group with a chief, who is often a medicine man or woman. Within the group no-one has personal choice. Everyone does what the chief says. They live in a magical, mystical world. The village they live in is magic, and everything outside was “scary”. As long as they stayed in the village they were OK. The elements – wind, rain, etc were messages from the gods. The medicine man/woman/chief interprets the messages. They know what they needed to do as a tribe to stay safe from the “scary elements”. No one has choice. Everything they do is to please the medicine man, and everything he told them to do was to please the gods/ goddesses.

They evolve to the next level when:
Certain people become disenchanted with the tribe / medicine man and they strike out on their own. They let go of being a victim and get understanding.

3. Aggression oriented
Then they become totally alone again. They live like a Wild West Gunfighter. They have no respect for anyone or anything. Their model of the world is “Kill or be killed”. It is a regression of sorts. They have no guilt, and are into instant gratification. Their motto would be “I do what suites me and only me right now”. They live in a dangerous place but handle it by taking out the danger before it takes them out. Inner city gangs are at this level.

They evolve to the next level when:
They become disenchanted or guilt kicks in. so they go back into joining the system again. They get caught and go to prison (prison is a values level 4 system) They let go of hurt and rejection and get acceptance of self.

4. System oriented (the loyalist)
Most large businesses, governments, and organised religions are at 4.In a values level 4 system there is someone in charge and it’s not you. You sacrifice yourself now for salvation later.

You do what the boss, government, or leader says, even if you didn’t like it because you believed there would be some pay off later, e.g a pension or you go to heaven.

Very guilt oriented – fear of doing something other than you are told, and the guilt you feel after you’ve done it.

They evolve to the next level when:
Someone decides they don’t want to sacrifice now for a pay off later. They want it NOW. So I’m going to go out and get it. I’m not going to wait until I’m 65. I want it now.
They let go of guilt and unworthiness and get forgiveness (of self)

5. Materialist oriented – Entrepreneur (Achiever)
This person is money, goal, materialist, oriented. They are into Instant gratification – they are not going to save up for a Porsche and say “I’m going to buy it now.” They are hard driven, acquire more things and more money

They evolve to the next level when:

For some reason their money disappears, Burn out / business / stock market crashes and they loose all their money and they look up and say “There must be more to life than this.” They let go of unfulfilled expectations and totally let go and go with the flow.

6. Group and Cause oriented (Involver)So they become group and cause oriented. Ban the bomb, Save the whale, Greenpeace.

They are into not going out and getting things for themselves, they want everyone to have the same. They value equality – so they form groups. Unfortunately the groups don’t achieve much because they want group consensus. So they don’t do anything unless everyone agrees. Which in practice means – nothing gets done. Everything is shared out. Fairness. Everyone is involved, everyone votes.

Interestingly Level 6’s (and 4’s) can’t understand Level 5 or 7. so they don’t understand the need to sell themselves, and get annoyed when people try to sell to them, and often ask for “energy exchanges”

They evolve to the next level when:
You realise you are doing all the work, but are sharing the rewards equally. You get tired of things not working and you say “Sod this” and strike out on your own again at a higher level.

7. Existential (choice seeker) – a quantum leap / water shed
People at this level can adopt any of the values levels below when it suites them, in order to get the results they need. They are results oriented as long as – it doesn’t harm anyone else. Whereas at level 5 – you don’t care if someone else loses, as long as you get your result. At level 7 you develop the true win – win. I am results oriented, but with the condition that I don’t harm anyone, I don’t take from anyone else.

They believe “The way for me to win is by other people winning.” But not at their own expense (that’s level 6).

They are significantly more integrated, as they move beyond the notion of roles in their life. Prior to 7 they might be a different person in different situations. They might be a different person at work, to how they are with their kids to how they are with their parents.

As level 7 they lose these “roles”. They just are who they are. They are the same in every single context. It’s just me. They are very comfortable with themselves and others. They have true flexibility. They can handle change and don’t take other’s behaviour personally.

Level 7’s can do business and sell, and they do, but it must be a fair exchange. Whereas 6’s will give it away or want things for free.

I am passionate about evolution because it will ultimately save the planet and our society. Left unchecked 6’s can squander the wealth accumulated by 5’s but without the compassion of 6’s, 5’s will strip the planet and society bare. The ideal is to become a fully actualised in value level 7.

We need the compassion of level 6 but the business approach of level 5. We need to marry heart (6) and mind (5). We need to bring spirit into business and business into sprit.

At level 7’s will use the win-win business approach to ensure that all win and no-one’s expense.

The good news is that not everyone has to get to level 7 just enough of the population and enough in power. Will it be you? Do you want to help others to evolve like this?

On our NLP prac and NLP master coach training you will evolve yourself and learn to help others do the same. Call me to find out how you can evolve yourself and help others to evolve.  0800 0409115

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Why I have never been so proud and grateful

September 4, 2008

I’ve used NLP with my daughter Katie since I took my first practitioner training when she was only two. I’ve always been pleased with how effective NLP tools are at helping us communicate, understand each other, and how it has helped her improve her confidence and sense of self. Now seven, Katie is confident, happy, and secure. She interacts well with others. Katie is her own person, she speaks up for what she wants and lets others know how she feels.  Katie is also sensitive to how others are feeling. Now I know I’m completely biased because I’m her mother so, of course, she is perfect J, and I’ve always put it down to using NLP with her.

But after Monday’s challenges I have never been so grateful for my NLP skills and never so proud of myself for handling such a difficult situation as well as I did.

Katie had an accident in the playground, she feel off the monkey bars and broke her wrist. From the minute I scooped her up right through the casualty, theatre and now into recovery I have been using NLP, not only with her, but with myself.

I used trance and hypnotic suggestions to keep her calm on the way to the hospital. I used hypnosis again in casualty to guide her to turn down the pain. I used anchoring and state management to keep myself calm, centred and balanced during the ordeal of waiting and especially when the consultant informed me of the extent of the damage to her wrist. I used meta model questions to extract from the doctors exactly what was going on.

I used it all, and I’ve never been so grateful for those skills. Without them I would have been a mess, Katie would have been terrified and I believe her healing and recovery would be longer. Here is the full story.

Katie’s Story

Shortly after Katie fell off the monkey bars and broke her wrist she started to go into shock. On the way to the hospital I used positive suggestions to get her to relax. Her breathing slowed, the pallor left her face and she started to look more comfortable. 

To help her with the pain whilst waiting at the hospital I used hypnosis and got her to ask her nerves to stop sending the pain message. I started putting positive suggestions. About 20 minutes later she is organising a game with some other children in the waiting room (ever the leader is Katie).

It took 4 hrs before the consultant saw us and looked at her x-ray.

Now I know that consultants have done a lot to get better at communication and as I’m pretty good at it I have high standards, but the way he informed us of what was going on was , well to be polite, not empowering, informative, or supportive.

He introduced himself, which was good, he’d obviously learnt to do that. Then he goes on to inform us that Katie had indeed broken her wrist (at this stage we only know it is damaged in some way) and that she will need surgery like this…

Consultant: “So Katie, how did you break your wrist?”

My internal Dialogue “oh my god, it is broken then!”

Lisa: “so it’s definitely broken?”

C: “Oh yes. But one that we can potentially fix. Katie, is this your first time having an anaesthetic?”

My internal dialogue “POTENTIALLY, POTENTIALLY! what doesn’t he mean POTENTIALLY? Does that mean it WON’T heal? What happens if it doesn’t heal? How likely is it? Is she going to be all right? Why is he talking about anaesthetics? What does he want to do to her? Is he going to operate, cut her open? Oh my god”

Lisa: “Tell me about the break, what is the procedure? What are you proposing?”

C: “the break is in rather a nasty position, and we need to get the bones into position?”

Internal dialogue “oh my god, oh my god, what is he telling me? It sounds really serious? How bad is it? What is going on? What is he going to do to my little girl?”

At this point I see Katie’s eyes getting wider and wider, she is holding her damaged wrist and moving as if to protect it from anyone touching it. I have good sensory acuity (an NLP skill) and notice. I interrupt the consultant who is saying something else incomprehensible at this time.

“Katie – look at me”. I look her straight in the face. I muster all my state control to become calm and centred. I know I need to be her rock that she can rely on and trust. I find my centre. She turns her wide face to me and stares deep into mine. I see the look of pleading for me to tell her it will be all right. I keep my voice steady, serious, reassuring and steady.

“It’s all right, you won’t feel any pain. All they will do is put a little injection into your other hand and you will fall off to sleep. The next thing you will know is that you’ll be woken up and it will all be over. You won’t feel a thing; you won’t even know anything about it. Just like having a sleep. OK?

Katie nods and I see her start to relax a little, she is still tense, and unsure, but has found her centre. Her breathing lowers in her chest.

Then we are on the conveyer of pre-op prep. Changing into a gown. Put on a bed, wheeled down to theatre. Every time we are alone I just keep telling her.

“This is a really common thing. The doctors fix this all the time. You can feels safe knowing they will mend your arm. You are such a good healer. You will heal from this really quickly. Your body knows how to heal this. Your body can heal this quickly and perfectly. You can just relax knowing that that is the best way to heal. Your body knows how to mend your arm. You body can fix it perfectly. Everyone is going to be amazed at how quickly you can heal your arm. Any time you hear anyone say anything otherwise that’s because they don’t know just how clever your body is at healing. They are making the mistake of thinking your body is like other’s who don’t know how to heal. But yours just knows how to heal it and can heal and it will.”

And so on. She must have been bored by it, but that’s part of the technique. I was using the NLP technique of planting positive suggestions and neutralising any negative ones she might hear.

I also neutralised the authority suggestions by making light of the fact that next time she saw the consultant he would be in pyjamas and wearing a silly hat. This would have taken the edge off some of his authority. Katie thought it was very funny that he would wear pyjamas at work.

Positive suggestions are CRUCIAL at this time, because when in shock, pain or even a light trance (which accidents and hospitals tend to induce) the unconscious mind is like a sponge it will absorb any and all suggestions. ESPECIALLY those from an authority figure, like say, an important looking consultant.

When anyone is in shock their conscious filtering faculties are switched off. The Unconscious mind is WIDE open to all and any suggestions.  It’s essential to be careful what you say at this time because everything will be taken on as a direct suggestion. If they hear “it will take a long time to heal” their unconscious mind will do just that – make it take a long time to heal.

The manipulation went fine. Katie recovered from the anaesthetic quickly. I stayed with her all night until she was allowed home the following day. I knew she would have been fine but I was her shield against any negative suggestions so stayed.

She’s home now coping with her plaster cast well and is cheerfully looking forward to going back to school and showing it off to her friends. She even said that the hospital stay was like a little holiday. Kids eh!

I am just so grateful that I was aware of the importance of positive language at such a crucial time. I am so grateful that I know how to control my state so that I could be calm for Katie. If I panic, even if I hid it, like all kids she would have picked it up and started to panic herself.

I continue to use hypnotic suggestions, especially when she least expects it.

And the prognosis? The doctors say there is a chance that she may not regain full use of her hand. And yes it is her dominant hand. But for my part I simply will not entertain any such outcome. The only future I am creating is one where she is completely healed whole and magnificent. I will keep you posted of her progress.

This experience has taught me the utter importance of understanding the mind, its effect on the body, the power of language and how essential it is to use it to help not heal.

I wanted to share this with you so that you could get an appreciation of the power of NLP. People give me a hard time for promoting NLP so much, they tell me to get off my soap box about NLP.

But, quiet frankly I have seen the positive effects of its power, and just how much it can improve people’s lives too often to stay quiet about it. If you don’t like NLP, you probably don’t like the way it’s been used, which is why I teach it the way I do.

If you want to learn to stay calm no matter what is going on around you, to communicate with your loved ones, to help others heal, or heal yourself, then get yourself onto our NLP practitioner training in October. You never know when you might need it.

After Monday’s challenges I have never been so grateful for my NLP skills and never so proud of myself for handling such a difficult situation as well as I did.

Call me on 08000409115 to discuss how you can benefit from NLP.


NLP – Lightworker tools

August 21, 2008

There are a lot of misconceptions about NLP and in many ways the NLP business has not done itself any favours. It uses lots of jargon. Even its own name “Neuro-Linguistic-Programming” doesn’t help. But in fact NLP has its roots in ancient spiritual, shamanic and other forms of healing. At Psycademy, we show you the true face and history of every NLP technique.

“How did you make the change from being an engineer to being a spiritual teacher?” Is a question I’m often asked.

My first ever training was probably the most radical transition from the logical to the weird that you can imagine. As an engineer we don’t even believe in electromagnetism. If you can’t see it you can’t trust it. If you want to move something you have to kick it. If you want to move it further or faster – kick it harder.

Then one day, somehow, I’m sitting in a circle of women, holding a something called a talking stick in Dorset. My relief to find that “talking stick” meant they expected ME to speak, not the stick was short lived as later I was sent out to “find a stone that will speak to you”.

To say these exercises stretched me in an understatement. But I did the exercises and incredibly I eventually DID find a stone that spoke to me and still use it as my womb stone now. I leant to invoke the goddess, summon spirits, find and communicate with my power animal, call up and release elemental spirits. I danced, drummed and journeyed to the shamanic worlds and even into the land of death. I talked to the elders, felt energy and resonated with nature spirits. I learnt the medicine wheel the sacred feminine and I loved every minute of it.

So when I leant NLP it was easy. NLP was nothing but shamanism with other labels on it. A hypnotic trance is nothing more than a shamanic journey. NLP eye accessing patterns is a simple shamanic way to see, hear, feel and connect with spirit. Shamanism even has a couple of eye accessing patterns never taught in NLP. Submodalities – a shamanic technique to release entities and negative energy. Time Line Therapy is a way of releasing Karma, invoking the energies of the ancestors and accessing past lives. Parts Integration is a Soul Retrieval.

I love NLP because it offers a wonderfully powerful shamanic and spiritual toolbox. And it does so in a way that is completely acceptable in business, education, healing, or therapy.

With NLP you can take spirituality into businesses, and they never even know that you have done so, they will just be blown away by your skills and effectiveness.

What is also great is that NLP, Time Line Therapy (TM) Hypnosis and Coaching are all accredited certificated trainings. NLP gives you the powers of a shaman in a way that is acceptable to anyone.

It is for this reason that we offer NLP practitioner trainings and with it some of the most powerful shamanic and spiritual tools available. Only with Psycademy can you learn the shamanic secrets behind the NLP tools.


The pain of the planet

July 1, 2008

Holding the pain of the planetFor years I have used, and trained others in, the most sophisticated and effective therapies on the planet.

These therapies are specifically designed to release any amount of emotional and karmic pain.

And they work with amazing effectiveness.

I know they work, yet I still feel pain. For years I have mistakenly believed that this pain was mine.

This pain keeps me awake at night and pushes me on and on and on. This pain makes me strive to heal and help others and to do this in an ethical and karmically balanced way.

I have now realised this.

The pain that I feel is not mine at all. It is the pain of the entire planet.

For some reason this gift or curse that I have has enabled me to feel the pain, suffering, hurts and fears of all the souls on the planet. This pain means I know who I can help and who does not need what I offer. This pain means I know exactly what another’s problem is and how to help them best to heal it. This pain means I hurt, physically and almost all the time. But this pain is not mine.

This pain drives me on to strive to heal and change and enable others to grow, to evolve and achieve spiritual enlightenemnt. Sometimes I don’t know how I do what I do, I just do it and see the results. It caused me to set up Psycademy. It caused me to stay and work in this business doing what I do even though it is has been at massive personal expense and pain.

So many want and need what I offer yet so few will take the very steps they must take before I can help them.

This pain means that when someone contacts me or comes to me, joins my mailing list or even just reads my website or newsletter I know that I can help them. I feel the pain of others and I trigger them to become aware of it in themselves.

This opens up two paths for people.

  1. Some choose to join me. Some are ready to join Psycademy. They read our newsletter and learn and grow, they enrol on trainings or purchase our products. They grow, and heal and change and leave their pain behind. This frees not only them but myself.
  2. Others fear me. They are not ready and so they fear my business, they are suspicious. They come into contact with us and feel pain. They suddenly feel their own pain that they have kept suppressed for years. The mistakenly blame or accuse us, me for causing this pain. They attack me, viciously and personally, and that too hurts me. After all I’m only a human with a gift for raising awareness. But I know it is only their pain that is talking, not the true spirit behind them. So I forgive them and move on to the next person who is ready.

Right now, the world is in pain. Probably more pain than ever before. I can feel your pain. The fear, fear of lack, fear of failure, fear of the future, fear for your children and for your parents, fear for society, for the planet. I feel the guilt and the hurts and the anger at the injustice of the state of the planet right now. I feel the utter dispair.

Sometimes, late at night I allow myself to fully feel their pain. Do I feel it for them so that they don’t have to? Do I carry this burden for those who can’t? Just as any mother whose child is in pain will scream inside “Hurt me – let me feel the hurt for them?” Is this why I chose to carry it?

Do I feel it so that I can bring it to their awareness? I don’t know. It’s not really important. The important thing is that I keep on going. I keep offering the love and support that I do. I keep sending my newsletters, posting on my blog, going and meeting people, speaking to people, running my trainings, offering my therapies, offering my home study and home therapy packs. Offering to anyone who is ready and willing to recieve.

And I trust. I trust that all is well, and all will be well. Even in the pain of the now, I feel the joy and release of it too. Which always comes. Every time a soul finds their path, which may or may not be with Psycademy, I feel that release and that joy.

What I feel cannot be described. But I do not believe in am alone. There are a few, a very few who know what it takes for me to do what I do.

Join me. Leave me. Choose your path, but release your pain, and be free. Free yourselves. Free the planet.