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February 11, 2009

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How your personal evolution could save the planet.

September 11, 2008

According to the Clare Graves (who is a man) individuals and groups evolve through certain levels according to their values.  According to the work of Clare Graves, communities, populations and cultures evolve through what he calls “values” levels. Please note this is just a model which is useful to help us understand evolution of communities. It should not be used to judge people as being better or worse.

Evolution of values systems takes place within populations and cultures. Cultures evolve through these levels. In addition, people experience evolving through these levels in their lifetime. Organisations / groups of people also evolve through these levels.

1. Survival Oriented:
This person is totally alone. They have no associations with anyone else. No-one is currently living at this level except in very unusual situations where someone has been stranded somewhere – e.g. soldiers stranded after 2nd world war. Some people in abusive families exist at survival level.

2. Tribal Oriented This level occurs where there is a group with a chief, who is often a medicine man or woman. Within the group no-one has personal choice. Everyone does what the chief says. They live in a magical, mystical world. The village they live in is magic, and everything outside was “scary”. As long as they stayed in the village they were OK. The elements – wind, rain, etc were messages from the gods. The medicine man/woman/chief interprets the messages. They know what they needed to do as a tribe to stay safe from the “scary elements”. No one has choice. Everything they do is to please the medicine man, and everything he told them to do was to please the gods/ goddesses.

They evolve to the next level when:
Certain people become disenchanted with the tribe / medicine man and they strike out on their own. They let go of being a victim and get understanding.

3. Aggression oriented
Then they become totally alone again. They live like a Wild West Gunfighter. They have no respect for anyone or anything. Their model of the world is “Kill or be killed”. It is a regression of sorts. They have no guilt, and are into instant gratification. Their motto would be “I do what suites me and only me right now”. They live in a dangerous place but handle it by taking out the danger before it takes them out. Inner city gangs are at this level.

They evolve to the next level when:
They become disenchanted or guilt kicks in. so they go back into joining the system again. They get caught and go to prison (prison is a values level 4 system) They let go of hurt and rejection and get acceptance of self.

4. System oriented (the loyalist)
Most large businesses, governments, and organised religions are at 4.In a values level 4 system there is someone in charge and it’s not you. You sacrifice yourself now for salvation later.

You do what the boss, government, or leader says, even if you didn’t like it because you believed there would be some pay off later, e.g a pension or you go to heaven.

Very guilt oriented – fear of doing something other than you are told, and the guilt you feel after you’ve done it.

They evolve to the next level when:
Someone decides they don’t want to sacrifice now for a pay off later. They want it NOW. So I’m going to go out and get it. I’m not going to wait until I’m 65. I want it now.
They let go of guilt and unworthiness and get forgiveness (of self)

5. Materialist oriented – Entrepreneur (Achiever)
This person is money, goal, materialist, oriented. They are into Instant gratification – they are not going to save up for a Porsche and say “I’m going to buy it now.” They are hard driven, acquire more things and more money

They evolve to the next level when:

For some reason their money disappears, Burn out / business / stock market crashes and they loose all their money and they look up and say “There must be more to life than this.” They let go of unfulfilled expectations and totally let go and go with the flow.

6. Group and Cause oriented (Involver)So they become group and cause oriented. Ban the bomb, Save the whale, Greenpeace.

They are into not going out and getting things for themselves, they want everyone to have the same. They value equality – so they form groups. Unfortunately the groups don’t achieve much because they want group consensus. So they don’t do anything unless everyone agrees. Which in practice means – nothing gets done. Everything is shared out. Fairness. Everyone is involved, everyone votes.

Interestingly Level 6’s (and 4’s) can’t understand Level 5 or 7. so they don’t understand the need to sell themselves, and get annoyed when people try to sell to them, and often ask for “energy exchanges”

They evolve to the next level when:
You realise you are doing all the work, but are sharing the rewards equally. You get tired of things not working and you say “Sod this” and strike out on your own again at a higher level.

7. Existential (choice seeker) – a quantum leap / water shed
People at this level can adopt any of the values levels below when it suites them, in order to get the results they need. They are results oriented as long as – it doesn’t harm anyone else. Whereas at level 5 – you don’t care if someone else loses, as long as you get your result. At level 7 you develop the true win – win. I am results oriented, but with the condition that I don’t harm anyone, I don’t take from anyone else.

They believe “The way for me to win is by other people winning.” But not at their own expense (that’s level 6).

They are significantly more integrated, as they move beyond the notion of roles in their life. Prior to 7 they might be a different person in different situations. They might be a different person at work, to how they are with their kids to how they are with their parents.

As level 7 they lose these “roles”. They just are who they are. They are the same in every single context. It’s just me. They are very comfortable with themselves and others. They have true flexibility. They can handle change and don’t take other’s behaviour personally.

Level 7’s can do business and sell, and they do, but it must be a fair exchange. Whereas 6’s will give it away or want things for free.

I am passionate about evolution because it will ultimately save the planet and our society. Left unchecked 6’s can squander the wealth accumulated by 5’s but without the compassion of 6’s, 5’s will strip the planet and society bare. The ideal is to become a fully actualised in value level 7.

We need the compassion of level 6 but the business approach of level 5. We need to marry heart (6) and mind (5). We need to bring spirit into business and business into sprit.

At level 7’s will use the win-win business approach to ensure that all win and no-one’s expense.

The good news is that not everyone has to get to level 7 just enough of the population and enough in power. Will it be you? Do you want to help others to evolve like this?

On our NLP prac and NLP master coach training you will evolve yourself and learn to help others do the same. Call me to find out how you can evolve yourself and help others to evolve.  0800 0409115

Better Business Practice: Raising your Game

September 6, 2008

The credit crunch has undoubtedly left many business owners feeling stressed and loosing sleep about how to manage a thriving business on an even tighter shoestring. It is always better to raise your inner threshold so that you can cope with more stress.

One of the most frequent questions I am asked is ‘why is it that some people can handle stress better than others?’ My answer is that everyone has their own unique inner threshold, which determines how stressed we let ourselves get and how we deal with it, and this is no different in business life.

The most common problem faced by business owners is balancing their perception about how much they can cope with and when they need to buy in external help, be it freelance or permanent employees. Whilst this is not a problem in itself, when the economy begins to shift and costs go up, employees can put additional strain on the business and threaten its ability to operate as the market continues to shrink. This is why it is crucial to work out exactly how much you can manage before you take on additional staff.

Are you working  beyond your inner threshold?

The typical symptoms of being beyond your threshold include; problems concentrating, lack of focus, not getting things done, being clumsy and accident prone, poor sleep, inability to relax, minor illness, irritability, aggression and angry outbursts for small things.

There are many things that contribute to a reduced inner threshold and these include; confused unfocused thinking, unresolved negative emotions, unresolved events from the past, inner conflict, limiting beliefs, failure to take action and poor physical condition.

These things take up your valuable mind and thinking space, as the more mental clutter you have the less capacity you have for creative thinking, problem solving and inspired decision making. If it gets really bad you will find yourself unable to focus on important information being given to you or current events. You might even miss something vital; this is one way that accidents happen.

To raise your threshold you could heal up emotions from the past. I strongly advise releasing them using a proven technique such as Time Line Therapy (TM) or Higher Self Therapy. Rather than simply suppressing (ignoring) or expressing (talking about them) these two techniques actually RELEASE the emotions. Although suppression or expression are more common they have been proven to be ineffective at raising your inner threshold. Unresolved events from the past also affect your threshold as you will always have that particular event replaying in your mind and you will sometimes find it occurs at inappropriate times e.g. at work, in a meeting, during a speech etc.

Coping with a busy business

First and foremost, you need to be able to figure out what tasks you should focus on most i.e. the ones which will benefit you most. You should also take time to meditate or sit in silence so you can gather thoughts together and to push negative thoughts out, this will allow you to concentrate more on your work and with that slightly shorter list of tasks you can do it easily by yourself/within your team.

If you find yourself feeling a bit down and energy-less try doing some exercise, as the mind and the body effect each other, so by increasing your physical strength you’re also building up your mental strength. Exercising has many neurological benefits including triggering the reduction of stress hormones and the production of endorphins plus other “happy” hormones and neurotransmitters.

Also, try spending 10-30 minutes sitting in silence, this will remove all of your mental clutter and make you feel a lot more mentally lighter, also another quick tip is too look up when you feel upset because looking down takes you into your emotions.

How is your inner threshold? Are you above it? If you think you are, don’t panic, it can be raised and you can start to get back in control of your life.

Why I have never been so proud and grateful

September 4, 2008

I’ve used NLP with my daughter Katie since I took my first practitioner training when she was only two. I’ve always been pleased with how effective NLP tools are at helping us communicate, understand each other, and how it has helped her improve her confidence and sense of self. Now seven, Katie is confident, happy, and secure. She interacts well with others. Katie is her own person, she speaks up for what she wants and lets others know how she feels.  Katie is also sensitive to how others are feeling. Now I know I’m completely biased because I’m her mother so, of course, she is perfect J, and I’ve always put it down to using NLP with her.

But after Monday’s challenges I have never been so grateful for my NLP skills and never so proud of myself for handling such a difficult situation as well as I did.

Katie had an accident in the playground, she feel off the monkey bars and broke her wrist. From the minute I scooped her up right through the casualty, theatre and now into recovery I have been using NLP, not only with her, but with myself.

I used trance and hypnotic suggestions to keep her calm on the way to the hospital. I used hypnosis again in casualty to guide her to turn down the pain. I used anchoring and state management to keep myself calm, centred and balanced during the ordeal of waiting and especially when the consultant informed me of the extent of the damage to her wrist. I used meta model questions to extract from the doctors exactly what was going on.

I used it all, and I’ve never been so grateful for those skills. Without them I would have been a mess, Katie would have been terrified and I believe her healing and recovery would be longer. Here is the full story.

Katie’s Story

Shortly after Katie fell off the monkey bars and broke her wrist she started to go into shock. On the way to the hospital I used positive suggestions to get her to relax. Her breathing slowed, the pallor left her face and she started to look more comfortable. 

To help her with the pain whilst waiting at the hospital I used hypnosis and got her to ask her nerves to stop sending the pain message. I started putting positive suggestions. About 20 minutes later she is organising a game with some other children in the waiting room (ever the leader is Katie).

It took 4 hrs before the consultant saw us and looked at her x-ray.

Now I know that consultants have done a lot to get better at communication and as I’m pretty good at it I have high standards, but the way he informed us of what was going on was , well to be polite, not empowering, informative, or supportive.

He introduced himself, which was good, he’d obviously learnt to do that. Then he goes on to inform us that Katie had indeed broken her wrist (at this stage we only know it is damaged in some way) and that she will need surgery like this…

Consultant: “So Katie, how did you break your wrist?”

My internal Dialogue “oh my god, it is broken then!”

Lisa: “so it’s definitely broken?”

C: “Oh yes. But one that we can potentially fix. Katie, is this your first time having an anaesthetic?”

My internal dialogue “POTENTIALLY, POTENTIALLY! what doesn’t he mean POTENTIALLY? Does that mean it WON’T heal? What happens if it doesn’t heal? How likely is it? Is she going to be all right? Why is he talking about anaesthetics? What does he want to do to her? Is he going to operate, cut her open? Oh my god”

Lisa: “Tell me about the break, what is the procedure? What are you proposing?”

C: “the break is in rather a nasty position, and we need to get the bones into position?”

Internal dialogue “oh my god, oh my god, what is he telling me? It sounds really serious? How bad is it? What is going on? What is he going to do to my little girl?”

At this point I see Katie’s eyes getting wider and wider, she is holding her damaged wrist and moving as if to protect it from anyone touching it. I have good sensory acuity (an NLP skill) and notice. I interrupt the consultant who is saying something else incomprehensible at this time.

“Katie – look at me”. I look her straight in the face. I muster all my state control to become calm and centred. I know I need to be her rock that she can rely on and trust. I find my centre. She turns her wide face to me and stares deep into mine. I see the look of pleading for me to tell her it will be all right. I keep my voice steady, serious, reassuring and steady.

“It’s all right, you won’t feel any pain. All they will do is put a little injection into your other hand and you will fall off to sleep. The next thing you will know is that you’ll be woken up and it will all be over. You won’t feel a thing; you won’t even know anything about it. Just like having a sleep. OK?

Katie nods and I see her start to relax a little, she is still tense, and unsure, but has found her centre. Her breathing lowers in her chest.

Then we are on the conveyer of pre-op prep. Changing into a gown. Put on a bed, wheeled down to theatre. Every time we are alone I just keep telling her.

“This is a really common thing. The doctors fix this all the time. You can feels safe knowing they will mend your arm. You are such a good healer. You will heal from this really quickly. Your body knows how to heal this. Your body can heal this quickly and perfectly. You can just relax knowing that that is the best way to heal. Your body knows how to mend your arm. You body can fix it perfectly. Everyone is going to be amazed at how quickly you can heal your arm. Any time you hear anyone say anything otherwise that’s because they don’t know just how clever your body is at healing. They are making the mistake of thinking your body is like other’s who don’t know how to heal. But yours just knows how to heal it and can heal and it will.”

And so on. She must have been bored by it, but that’s part of the technique. I was using the NLP technique of planting positive suggestions and neutralising any negative ones she might hear.

I also neutralised the authority suggestions by making light of the fact that next time she saw the consultant he would be in pyjamas and wearing a silly hat. This would have taken the edge off some of his authority. Katie thought it was very funny that he would wear pyjamas at work.

Positive suggestions are CRUCIAL at this time, because when in shock, pain or even a light trance (which accidents and hospitals tend to induce) the unconscious mind is like a sponge it will absorb any and all suggestions. ESPECIALLY those from an authority figure, like say, an important looking consultant.

When anyone is in shock their conscious filtering faculties are switched off. The Unconscious mind is WIDE open to all and any suggestions.  It’s essential to be careful what you say at this time because everything will be taken on as a direct suggestion. If they hear “it will take a long time to heal” their unconscious mind will do just that – make it take a long time to heal.

The manipulation went fine. Katie recovered from the anaesthetic quickly. I stayed with her all night until she was allowed home the following day. I knew she would have been fine but I was her shield against any negative suggestions so stayed.

She’s home now coping with her plaster cast well and is cheerfully looking forward to going back to school and showing it off to her friends. She even said that the hospital stay was like a little holiday. Kids eh!

I am just so grateful that I was aware of the importance of positive language at such a crucial time. I am so grateful that I know how to control my state so that I could be calm for Katie. If I panic, even if I hid it, like all kids she would have picked it up and started to panic herself.

I continue to use hypnotic suggestions, especially when she least expects it.

And the prognosis? The doctors say there is a chance that she may not regain full use of her hand. And yes it is her dominant hand. But for my part I simply will not entertain any such outcome. The only future I am creating is one where she is completely healed whole and magnificent. I will keep you posted of her progress.

This experience has taught me the utter importance of understanding the mind, its effect on the body, the power of language and how essential it is to use it to help not heal.

I wanted to share this with you so that you could get an appreciation of the power of NLP. People give me a hard time for promoting NLP so much, they tell me to get off my soap box about NLP.

But, quiet frankly I have seen the positive effects of its power, and just how much it can improve people’s lives too often to stay quiet about it. If you don’t like NLP, you probably don’t like the way it’s been used, which is why I teach it the way I do.

If you want to learn to stay calm no matter what is going on around you, to communicate with your loved ones, to help others heal, or heal yourself, then get yourself onto our NLP practitioner training in October. You never know when you might need it.

After Monday’s challenges I have never been so grateful for my NLP skills and never so proud of myself for handling such a difficult situation as well as I did.

Call me on 08000409115 to discuss how you can benefit from NLP.

NLP – Lightworker tools

August 21, 2008

There are a lot of misconceptions about NLP and in many ways the NLP business has not done itself any favours. It uses lots of jargon. Even its own name “Neuro-Linguistic-Programming” doesn’t help. But in fact NLP has its roots in ancient spiritual, shamanic and other forms of healing. At Psycademy, we show you the true face and history of every NLP technique.

“How did you make the change from being an engineer to being a spiritual teacher?” Is a question I’m often asked.

My first ever training was probably the most radical transition from the logical to the weird that you can imagine. As an engineer we don’t even believe in electromagnetism. If you can’t see it you can’t trust it. If you want to move something you have to kick it. If you want to move it further or faster – kick it harder.

Then one day, somehow, I’m sitting in a circle of women, holding a something called a talking stick in Dorset. My relief to find that “talking stick” meant they expected ME to speak, not the stick was short lived as later I was sent out to “find a stone that will speak to you”.

To say these exercises stretched me in an understatement. But I did the exercises and incredibly I eventually DID find a stone that spoke to me and still use it as my womb stone now. I leant to invoke the goddess, summon spirits, find and communicate with my power animal, call up and release elemental spirits. I danced, drummed and journeyed to the shamanic worlds and even into the land of death. I talked to the elders, felt energy and resonated with nature spirits. I learnt the medicine wheel the sacred feminine and I loved every minute of it.

So when I leant NLP it was easy. NLP was nothing but shamanism with other labels on it. A hypnotic trance is nothing more than a shamanic journey. NLP eye accessing patterns is a simple shamanic way to see, hear, feel and connect with spirit. Shamanism even has a couple of eye accessing patterns never taught in NLP. Submodalities – a shamanic technique to release entities and negative energy. Time Line Therapy is a way of releasing Karma, invoking the energies of the ancestors and accessing past lives. Parts Integration is a Soul Retrieval.

I love NLP because it offers a wonderfully powerful shamanic and spiritual toolbox. And it does so in a way that is completely acceptable in business, education, healing, or therapy.

With NLP you can take spirituality into businesses, and they never even know that you have done so, they will just be blown away by your skills and effectiveness.

What is also great is that NLP, Time Line Therapy (TM) Hypnosis and Coaching are all accredited certificated trainings. NLP gives you the powers of a shaman in a way that is acceptable to anyone.

It is for this reason that we offer NLP practitioner trainings and with it some of the most powerful shamanic and spiritual tools available. Only with Psycademy can you learn the shamanic secrets behind the NLP tools.

Healing children

August 18, 2008

Do you want to heal, change, transform yourself and others?

In January of this year my 7 year old daughter Katie choked on some food. And by choking I don’t just mean it went down the wrong way and she had a bit of a cough. I mean her windpipe was completely blocked, she was no longer coughing. She is turning blue before my eyes. Katie stares straight at me with sheer panic and terror in her eyes. She is pleading, begging me to help her while she suffocates.

I grab her, turn her over and thump her hard on the back. Whack, whack whack. I know this must hurt but I have to get the blockage out. But it’s no good. Her mouth opening and closing in a desperate attempt to get some air, any air into her lungs.

Frantic now I turn her round, wrap my arms tight around her ribs and crunch HARD – the full blown Heimlich manoeuvre. I’d learnt about it on a first aid course YEARS before. A gobbet of food goes flying several feet across the room. Katie goes limp in my arms, but… she takes an in-breath, then she starts to cough and if she can cough, she can breath. She’s breathing again. I look at her face, distressed but relief flooding in. She’s breathing. In and out. In and out. Great sweet gasps of air.

I thought that was the end of it but a day or so latter I noticed she was playing with her food rather than tucking in to her dinner with her usual healthy appetite. To say Katie is a good eater is an understatement. She is a wonderful eater, ready to try new foods, relishing textures and flavours, even foods considered strong for the adult pallet.

But she was only picking at her meal. I know that making a fuss is only ever counterproductive with Katie so left her to it thinking her hunger would simply kick in eventually.

When she was still not eating after days, and dark circles started to appear under her eyes, when her ribs started to show on her normally plump, healthy little body I started to get concerned. Then the school called to mention that Katie was not eating her school lunch. At our next meal I observed her taking a mouthful, chewing it and then putting it in her napkin to hide the fact that she could not swallow.

Katie was not eating! She was eating almost nothing at all. As a mother it seems to be hardwired into the very core of my being to feed and nurture my child. It is such a basic primitive instinct. Most mothers are familiar with the feeling of it actually hurting themselves when they hear their baby cry with hunger.

I sat down with Katie for one of our chats. “I’m just a nervous swallower now” she told me. Now fortunately I am a trainer of NLP and know a little about phobias, and fear, and the unconscious mind. Rather a lot actually.

I went away and constructed an intervention. First we did Time Line Therapy(TM). “Ok Katie, remember where you Time Line is? Good, now float up above your Time Line, and go back out into the past to the moment just before you started to choke. Now. Where’s the Fear?”

“It’s gone Mummy”

“GONE? Are you sure, just check for me. Pop down into your body back at that time… is the fear all gone?”

“no it’s all gone. I remember you hitting me on the back – that really hurt you know!”

“I know I’m sorry – I was trying to help”

“It’s OK I know you were, I’m glad you did that big squeeze thing – that worked”

“Yeah me too…. Ok now float up above your time line again and come back to now.”

Katie’s healthy appetite has returned. She eats well. Katie is healthy; she is back to her normal weight and her strong self again.

So when people ask – does NLP work with kids – I can say from direct experience YES. It works with kids too.

n.b please do NOT use this technique unless you are a certified practitioner of NLP and Time Line Therapy (TM). Unless properly and fully trained you can cause someone to fully associate into a traumatic memory which without the skills of NLP you will not be equipped to handle.

Do you want to heal and change yourself and others? Enrol on our next NLP Practitioner course now. Includes Time Line Therapy, Hypnosis, and NLPCoaching Certifications.

Places are limited so early booking always advisable.

How do you, and why should you, Haa breathe?

August 7, 2008

Haa Breathing is a really useful way to both still your mind and raise and maintain your energy.

Have a listen to Lisa’s quick guide on why and how to do it here …

We recommend you do this for at least 5 minutes every day … you will notice the change in yourself after a week and we hope want to learn more …